Possible to keep an long distance attraction for like say hmm a month?

[WeirdNordicDude]

I like posting and hearing other ppls opinion, so this topic is about a strange, yet beautyful and pretty girl i recently met.

Ok here goes: I live in a small town now, half of the population here are students, about 3000 of em. I work in the local student bar, which is a pretty popular place to socialize and meet different ppl.

So last saturday I worked with a buddy of mine, there were alot of ppl and a good mood in the bar. Usually its allways somethings that allways fucks up, like the beer kegs are empty, we are out of change or whatever, but this very saturday it went smooth. So at the same place there were two girls working in the crew(busboy job or whatever its called, collecting glasses, recieving cash at the entrance etc jobs), both 18 years of age, im 22 myself. So I had a pretty good conversation now and then through out the night when it wasnt to much to do.

So when the work is over in the bar in weekends, its allways an afterparty, most ppl went home, we were like 7 ppl at most sitting and drinking just having fun. Im abit of a storyteller guy tbh, i mean, if u get me started ill throw a 40 mins long story to you, about my experiences travlin around the world as backpacker and so on. And so i did, i dunno how i got into the subject, but I sat there and entertained seriously 6 other ppl that were completely silence for 40 mins, maybe it was 30, i dunno.

So after telling all these stories( only true ones ofc), I noticed one of these 18year old girls(prolly HB8.5) is giving me more and more attention. We were sitting all pretty separate and all so i didnt make any real approach to go like sit next to her, i mean ok its 5 am in the morning we were all tired and just wanted to have a laugh before before we go home.

So finally we are 4 ppl as the last ones leaving, my bar manager, my buddy, the hb and i. our manager driver us home, first of is the hb that lives pretty high up in a creek, i made some funny comments about her long way to work etc, and she replied i should come to her at chrismas for an annual party they have there then. Shes actually studying in another city and only comes home, to where i live each 2nd or 3rd month. It was no closing or what so ever, jsut friendly goodbye with smiles and such

So 5 days later she sends me a msg on my mobile (she have prolly been going through abit of trouble to get my number) and ask how im doing, happy and surprised as i am i reply and get a pretty good tone with her. We speak frequently on MSN now, allways very friendly tone, abit bold sometimes and challenge her to come visit me and such but anyways we allways have a really good conversation about everything and nothing.

So earlier i have had a really bad experience with girls that live far away, my ex f.example and last a girl i fooled around with that just seemed to loose the attraction over time, though we only typed by mobile msg.
But this girl, i must say, very pretty, attractive, seems pretty cool, taking iniative to get to know me, makes me feel pretty good

So from my previous mistakes, how can i keep this attraction going on? is it misson impossible?

Any suggestion? im open for all, and no im not a munk waiting for perfect girl to come around, i love the company of women and not afraid to meet new ones. Its just that, a girl that i can intrigue such as i did that night, i would die for to meet again hehe

[Jive]

How hard would it be to just meet up with her in real life? That seems like a logical explanation.
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[Allstar]

I have had SEVERAL instances like this and it is possible. Long Distance Relationships (LDR) are categorized in 2 ways. One is a monogamous and the other is a casual relationship.

Monogamous LDR- I DO NOT ever suggest having a monogamous LDR. They are all bound to be doomed, the question is how long. My LTR ex, after we have been dating for a year and half joins the Navy. She ends up getting stationed 8 hours away. We stayed together for a year and that is a LONG time considering how long most LDRs last.

Casual LDR- These are very good and I highly suggest them. Currently I still have a GREAT relationship with a hb8 (considering her intelligence and ambition she is a dream girl) that lives 100 miles away. I met her on 10 months and probably have made a life long friend out of her. We stay in contact by writing Myspace messages to each other. A week after I met her, her friends actually had plans to come to where I live. She invited me to go out with them to a bar. That night we ended up staying up till sunrise talking. 2 months later I went and visited her and I ended up F closing. This was only our 3rd time to see each other but we knew each other so well (she is a HARD close). We still continue to stay in touch by mostly Myspace messaging once a week and occassionally text. We enjoy each others company and a definate attraction between us. What makes it successful is we continue to see other people.

A HB8 I ended up meeting on Spring Break at Panama Beach. I ended up hooking this girl good. I kiss and number closed but I didn't f close because all her sorority sisters were sharing rooms and I was sharing a living room at the resort with 2 other guys. We stay in contact still through Facebook and text. She lives several states away attending a University. Either way a good friend relationship and if we ever do meet up again it is a definate F close.

I actually dated a HB9 for 2 months that lived 2 hours from me. She use to live in my home town but moved. She came back for a friends party and that is how I met her. We hit it off and I number closed. Well shortly after I went ahead and went and seen her and F closed. That is when we started to date and then she came and seen me once and I went and seen her once again. This girl I actually stayed in touch mostly through talking on the phone. I actually had more chemistry with this girl then any girl I have ever met even my LDR.

There is several examples of success stories with this. My best advice... develop attraction and then become friends. Stay off the LJBF fence though by occassionally having sexual conversations. Tell her how attractive she is etc... she should be responding the same way. Good Luck.

[WeirdNordicDude]

Jive - How hard would it be to just meet up with her in real life? That seems like a logical explanation.
well she lives 9 hrs from here, she was just on a autumn vacation that week. but her parents live in this town so she will we coming home ever now and then.

Thx for the advices, ill go for a casual LDR and keep it up what im doing right now. having some sexual conversation with her willl be a bit of a challenge since we havent gotten into the subject yet, but it will be fun i guess hehe

[Astrodokk]

Concentrate on someone within last minute dating distance, like for a movie or a bite to eat. LDR are tough and eventually stale, especially when someone who lives closer starts giving IOIs.

[Jive]

Originally Posted by WeirdNordicDude

Jive - How hard would it be to just meet up with her in real life? That seems like a logical explanation.
well she lives 9 hrs from here, she was just on a autumn vacation that week. but her parents live in this town so she will we coming home ever now and then.

Thx for the advices, ill go for a casual LDR and keep it up what im doing right now. having some sexual conversation with her willl be a bit of a challenge since we havent gotten into the subject yet, but it will be fun i guess hehe

I'm sorry I misinterpreted. I thought she was closer than that.
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[WeirdNordicDude]

Hmmm feels odd, but still after a good week or two, (cant remember how long we have been talking), we have a very good conversation. She has even knitted me a cap shes gonna give me when we meet next month

Our conversations vary alot, some nights we have been talking on msn for hrs and hrs, and some days we have just had a few msgs by mobile.

But my real struggle i guess is getting on the topic sex during a conversation on msn. Well ive done a few on msn and mobile but, to have a sexual converstion is kinda hard to get. i dont wanna scare her off either if u know what i mean.
Though theres no doubt that shes kinda in to me and wants to see me, she has expressed this several times but theres still abit of a while untill i see her so i must still keep the connection "up" i think.

If anyone have a few "hints", on how to get an sexual conversation or anyhing to take it a step further or if i should not, please post em and let me know

[JekDaPUA]

I just want to reiterate that attraction is just a fancy word for "interest"

with that said

"say one word its interesting, chain together 10 things that are interesting, now you're interesting" - Mystery

so with that said.. It all depends on how far you had gone when you did have contact and when you do have contact

because its one thing to have attraction, and another to be considered a suitor

people seem to forget that you can end up in comfort, and be in comfort for too long, which will LJBF you.. but also can happen from the lack of kino

so theoretically.. so long as you have gotten quite intimate when you are together.. holding her comfort and attraction levels over a distance IS possible..
but your going to need to some how keep the intimacy.. possibly talking dirty from time to time, or phone sex.. or whatever.. just so you do have that connectivity of "feelings".. and of course keep it interesting

otherwise you run the risk of her getting bored, finding someone much closer.. or just wanting to be "friends"

[WeirdNordicDude]

So the month, or maybe more has passed now, this is how i turned out...
I like to write long with detail as usual on the few posts ive made hehe

I dunno have we managed but we kept like msging on mobile and msn several times aday for over a month. I managed to keep a really cool, sweet and cocky tone the whole time tbh. yet i have to thank a good friend of mine for pushing me to send some msges that i found quite frankly abit on the edge and challenging, but she loved it As he said:" find out if she wants something with u, and if not, she should live her life and you should live your. theres no point in bullshitting and friend talking forever..."

Ive pretty laidback all the time, and come up with some ideas that would be a laugh and cool if she joined me in.
So she came here last friday, very late, just to hang out. Ive had some "dates" that hve been pretty lame before lol, so this time i kinda knew i had to put it right. We started of with a really good hug, i had like never spoken to her face to face 1 on1 before. Then we just chatted abit, and i started running some stories/routines i found out suited very nice. One about my old friend that got one crazyass ugly tattoo while he was shitfaced and one about a girl from my old work that had piercing allover. Suited pretty good since she both has a piercing and and a small cute tattoxD
I did some jokes and cool stories and lots kino during the whole time.

then we went into my bedroom and just chilled out with a movie, since we both love movies. After a while it became natural to just go for the kiss, and it continued to a really good makeout session with lots and lots of kinoing. We ended up pretty much naked, and i started getting down on her for some oral stimulation(which was a goal i had sat for the evening)xD. Im pretty experienced in it, but i wanted it to be really good for her hehe. So i learned the run through the alphabet with ur tongue trick, which worked wonders, the after a while getting fingers in finding the G-spot. It was pretty hard trying to really multitask sort of hehe, as i was using two fingers inside her, togue on her vagina especially clit after a while, while rubbing her breasts and holding her hand with the other hand. It ended up 2 orgasms for her and she spent the night overxD (i had sort of planned that sex was not an option this evening, it was more of giving her pleasure and drive her nuts hehe)

The next day she had some plans with her friends at daytime, and we met up at the student bar later that evening. Started out right away that night with a kiss, she was out with her friends and just having fun and getting drunk.
So i walked around talking to ppl just beeing really social and fun, we ended up making out and i followed her abit (as she was very tired) home before going back to the nightclub to my friends.

On sunday she came over to hang out with me again on the evening. It was a good night hehe, watched some movies, chatted, madeout some. I ended up giving her oral this evening too same alphabetic prosedure that is pure magic. she expressed to me after the first round:" you are fucking good at that", hehe. We continued cuddling and after a while it got really hot. We ended up having sex, it wasnt like woah, well shes a beast in the bed i must tell, but i had some probs keeping "it" up lol. I dunno why, i had like a boner for 4 hrs straight and hadnt come in like 5 days or so and she is fucking hot, but sometimes when it really matters, shit happends lol. Anyways i managed to keep up though it was damn hard that night. She spent the night over again, and we had sex in the morning.

Later that monday we just hang out together with some of her friends and some of mine at my place just watching movies n chilin.

As for today, tuesday or well its actually wednesday now but. We both had a pretty thight schedual with schoolwork these today. I was pretty sure it was gonna be some action this evening so i just went for it and masturbated like a madman 2hrs before she came to my place and took a shower lol. She came over late and watched a serie at tv that she "just gotta see" hehe. then we came up with making a tent by using furnitures and blankets in my room. it was real cozy with hot choclate to drink after a whiile watching movie together in the tent we had some massive kinoing, i ended up doing the alphabet on her hehe. And the masturbation 2hrs earlier worked ubelievebly well, i maintained hard for a looong time. In that "tent", in my room earlier tonight i had the most sweaty, intense and best sex in my whole life so far xD.

Well anywho, i just feelt i had to share this, as im having the time of my life right now shes staying 5 more days that will bring alot of more good moments for us both. What happends afterwards im uncertain of but right now im living one day at the time and make the best of every moment.

thank u for ur time