Did I ever mess up today

[Innovation]

Posted in the relationship forum about bringing back passion into my current relationship didnt get any help over there so I am working my way over here. In a nutshell, I am in a relationship, however I have been in the game for about 4 months now, enjoy it alot and can see all the +s it brings.

Problem time - This relationship takes my game and destroys it. I will try to bold all my mistakes and see if you agree.

This morning I went to see her for the seventh day in a row She seemed to be in an angry mood so I started to baby her, asking her what was wrong she said nothing / I dont want to talk about it. I assumed she was angry with me or had found someone new so I became more pushy about the subject She finally texted the problem out on her phone and handed it to me, it said "my mom has breast cancer now leave me alone. I felt horrible. Instead of just leaving her alone i hit the back button and saw a text message from some guy saying " I am waiting for you to come see me" I then walked into the kitchen and said Do you still like Woody, that is the guy

All hell broke loose, for the next hour she just tried to get me to leave her alone. I kept badgering her, asking her to stay and talk etc etc now that I am sitting at home not sure of how much damage I have done I regret ever bugging her, I regret seeing her everyday for 7 days, I regret ever losing my frame.

I need help on how to build it back up. Guys you are my only hope, come through = ]

[bonce]

how long have you been dating

[Innovation]

We have been together 6 months. I can say she means a whole lot to me, we had a rough spot for a few weeks and I am scared I am going to lose her. I want to call her right now but these forums are keeping me from doing so.

I know she needs her space, any advice ?

[Innovation]

bounce you got aim?

[bonce]

i know that pua a not to tell woman that they are sorry but i would message and say{ sorry and call me when you are ready to talk..}

and i am wondering if you have been dating her for 6 month and you got in to the game 4 month. When you are dating someone and learning the game the two world will never be able to work together.. i would personally tell you that you need to pick one of them at this point.

[JeM]

Why the FUCK would you ignore the breast cancer comment? Unless you already knew... or it isn't a recent development? That was not the time to get jealous/needy in terms of asking if she liked you or whatever else with this other guy. If that was a new development for her (I don't know if it was) - she needs someone to talk to. She needs to feel comfortable with you - not as if you're judging her/wondering about her past relationships. It might take her a while to open up, but make sure that she can with you if she wants...

Get your ass over there, apologize for how you acted, and let her know that you're there if she wants to talk (about the breast cancer - not this other guy). Don't simply call her, and simply don't text her and then let it sit. Those are pussy footing around the situation. Call her, tell her that you are coming over there, and apologize on the phone - so she knows you're not coming over for any other reason than to make up/be there for her. Even if she says, "no, don't come," - just go. It'll speak volumes about how committed to her you are, how big of a mistake you made, and potentially get her to open up to you.

Again, I don't really know the situation - but if shes telling you about breast cancer in her mom - this isn't the time to neg her/tease her/whatever else... do not game her - just be there for her. From what I read and gathered in your post... that would be my response - and I'd tend to agree with Bonce: Game and monogamous relationships don't exactly mix well (if you're going out and "gaming," while in said relationship).


Trance

[Innovation]

Talked to her on the phone and ran into her at the mall. There was a half ass Hug/Kiss/I love you but she is still mad.

Believe it or not going to see her will make things worse, she is one of the few people I know who just need to be left alone, she is mad at me for badgering her until she spilled the beans about her mom. But being the guy I am, I can tell when something is wrong, though I selfishly thought about infedelity. I messaged her apologizing, saying I was glad to see her and I would call her tomorrow.


Anymore advice is greatly appreciated guys.

I guess next time she says I dont want to talk about it I will end it with

Ok, but remember Im always here for you if you need me.

[Jmgc13]

If she doesnt want to talk about it just be like well if you want to just know im here if you want to tell someone and leave it to that she will come to you when shes ready.

[Innovation]

Yep thats what I am doing, however I must say this feeling of the unknown is probably the most sickening thing I have ever felt.

[Innovation]

Throwing in an update on this one, talked to a friend last night around 2 am who called me saying she saw her at the party. She did nothing wrong. My friend made a mistake though by confronting the guy in question bout her, this got back to her I am sure and today when I did talk to courtney she was more pissed than ever, she said I dont want to talk to you right now and hung up.

I am almost positive this is why...gah life is hard sometimes eh.