"Daughter's Secret" (could use niece) Comfort Routine - field tested

[Nels]

I remember one time I went to pick up my daughter from school. She was in kindegarden at the time. I came to pick her up and she was just sobbing uncontrollably. Not little sniffs, but blubbering like she'd just seen a puppy get run over. I got incredibly defensive and wanted to hurt whoever had caused this. I was ready to grab her teacher and make her explain exactly what had happened.

Trying not to imagine the worst I took a knee in front of her and she jumped into my arms and started hugging me and felt her tears getting my shirt wet. I asked her in the calmest voice I could muster, "what's wrong 'Munchkin'?"

Still wracked with sobs, she said "my friend told my secret". I didn't understand at first, but she explained to me that she'd told one of her friends a secret and her friend had told the person it was about and she felt humiliated. I started smiling a little realizing that her problems were temporary and she'd be OK. I was also glad that I hadn't put the teacher in a headlock and asked him to explain what happened.

I still felt sorry for her, but it was then that I realized that I wouldn't be able to protect her from everything in life. She is going to have disappointments and heartbreaks in life, and there isn't much I can do for her other than be there. I let her know that I'm one person who will always try to make her life better, but it kills me that she has to go through those things.

This might be useful in A2 as well, but I tend to save it.

[amirP02141]

Oh I am definitely going to have to use this one! I am interested to know if anyone has tried this, or something similar, and actually had it work? I think I will use niece since I want to play on the women who think I have no kids and I am ready to settle down and make a family so that means I am just now at the maturing stage and can be molded