Gaming girls still depressed over their exes?

[PradaG]

What would you do in such cases when girls are no longer together with their ex-bfs, and it's been a significant amount of time since they've broken up, yet they are still quite depressed over it? Even if they seem outwardly okay and happy, they are torn up inside.

There have been a few girls like this, and there have been some IOIs thrown at me, but I can't tell if they're considering me their rebound, their "girlfriend" for emotional support, or what. In any case, I'm hanging out with them, and I'm looking for a way to definitively change this situation. Since they are so depressed, I'm thinking of a message along the lines of, "That's it, I'm taking you out! We're going mini-golfing, shopping, and finding good gelato to eat. You will have the best time of your life -- that's a requirement haha! Because you are in need of a good time." Good? Bad? Suggestions? Any ideas?

[-Silver-]

Sounds good to me, that's going to convey a good energy, spontaneity, and fun times if it goes well. Watch you don't get stuck in the friend zone by being 'that guy she goes to when she's feeling down', but so long as you run your attraction routines whilst your out with her it should be fine. As far as being upset over their ex goes, it shouldn't be a problem if they've had time to get over him. It just means they haven't yet met someone that they believe could replace him. So make her enjoy the time spent with you, and work your attraction and comfort routines well, and suddenly you'll appear to be the white knight she's been searching for all this time.

If they have recently broken up with an ex, then you shouldn't expect the relationship to get very far at first. Whether she realizes it or not, she will be subconciously comparing everything you do to her ex when you become intimate, and you will ALWAYS appear worse. Simply because she isnt over her ex yet, and she was used to the way things had been with him. When you (quite naturally) do things slightly different to what she's been used to, she'll feel uncomfortable. Give her time, and eventually she'll get over her ex and be open to new relationships.

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[PradaG]

Well, it seems to have been quite a while already, but I suppose these things take a long time (getting over someone you were close with, especially when you still care about them). So, that being the case, it seems like time is not so much the issue as how much the girl is over the ex (which is, not really over the ex at all). How then can you run attraction and comfort routines while kino escalating without her comparing you to the ex (and finding out that she doesn't feel as comfortable with you as she did her ex).

[Theory]

Sorta goes back to fundamentals but do you really want a girl that is depressed over h ex in your life... the whole point of the VA was so you would never just have ot after that "one" girl... all the time and energy your putting into gaming a depressed chick you could be finding one just as hot just as cool and not depressed, sounds like oneittes alittle

[PradaG]

Not really. If you go back and re-read, I mention there have a been a few of these types of girls. I had my one-itis several years ago, and since then, haven't been attached to any one girl. I'm just interested in figuring it out, because beyond the depression, these girls are pretty damn fun. And like I said, they seem outwardly fine and happy, and in fact, don't even complain THAT much about their depression (only during those extreme times when it really feels unbearable to them), but deep down, it's obvious they are still feeling down.

I hardly find myself putting "all my time and energy" into one depressed girl. I spend some energy to experiment, to figure things out. It seems like people are quick to jump on the, oh-he-has-one-itis-so-let's-just-be-dismissive bandwagon. How is one to ask questions around here?

[Thor]

High energy is the key. I havent run into this problem before because of my high energy, but Im pretty sure that if i can get a girl to sleep with me while shes still going out with the guy I can get her to go out with me after shes broken up with him as well. Its nothing more than a mild case of depression, and what do you do when your depressed (mildly of course, if your depressed for longer than a few months I advise you seek professional treatment)? Go have fun, show her a good time and you will be rewarded well!