Is my girlfriend hiding me from the world???

[french toast]

I am going out with a girl now for over 3 months, i have some reservations because she hasnt put up a single photo of us together or changed her relationship status to say she's going out with me!!! we have gone away on weekends together and have lots of photos. I brought this up with her and she said she likes to keep her private life private, but she has photos of all her other friends up including ex-boyfriends. Her other point is that she dosnt want to rub it in the face of her ex who she was going out with for 2 years before she met me!!! This seems like a more valid point.

Is this normal? Am i being padantic? to be honest it just bugs me a little.
How long should i give her?
How should i play this?

[Tommy Sinatra]

So she doesn't want to put up pictures of you because she doesn't want to upset her ex? FUCK THAT...I would be like peace the fuck out sweetheart. Why is she still friends with an ex anyway? I mean, it could be ok to be friends with an ex if they had both moved on to a healthy point. If he will be upset because she posts pictures of her current boyfriend, well that is not healthy. How does she know he will be upset, does she still talk to him about how he feels?? This is not normal and you have every right to be pissed off lol BUT...are you two official or just dating? That makes a difference..and does she take you out with her friends around? Not that facebook or relationship status on facebook means anything but her behavior points to an issue with the ex that you may want to be cautious of.

[Vikingen]

Now I dont know how "official" you are yet. But I can see how it would annoy the fuck out of you. IMO you gotta man up and just send that request, if she denies it you can argue it a little with her, and if you play it right the odds are on yuor side. If not, you have the right to be pissed at her.
Dont let her put an ex in front of you, I donno about you, but I know very few guys who dont just stay friends with their ex's for the chance to bang them again. That's all I had, good luck.

[jayrock]

@French Toast:
I'm in a similar situation, with a little bit more complex issues surrounding mine. Here's how I'm playing my situation... Keep calm, stay fun and KNOW that you are the prize. This is your world and she is simply a guest. I'm not against a chick staying friends with her ex - and NEVER talk shit about him - that is a sign of weakness. And forget the FB shit. She may have a million reasons why she doesn't change her status... The best way to play the game is to know that YOU are the prize. Fuck the FB world.

@Tommy Sinatra:
I love that quote. Thanks for bringing to my attention again.

[The_Jester]

We've all heard of problems like this from social networking sites.

What NOBODY has EVER heard is that social networking sites have made their relationship better. Not one single person gives Facebook credit like that.

Why?

Because it doesn't help. It's not a necessity. The world doesn't need to know about you two. You don't need the reassurance of being tagged in her photos or listed under her relationship status. And exes on her page are only going to trigger jealousy - something grown men don't need either.

If she IS seeing an ex still, then that means you're a fling anyway and it's time to accept that. But it's not worth dwelling on because there's plenty of women out there.

This is an opportunity for you to strengthen your self control by totally ignoring Facebook. Don't visit her page once for the next several weeks. In fact, minimize using the site altogether. See how it changes things.

If you two are in fact involved and it's monogamous, then experience that in real life, not online. Save FB encounters for those distant friends/relatives who live hundreds of miles away.

[selvan12345]

I do believe a 23 and 40 human relationship can work. But I don't believe that is your issuance here.

[selvan12345]

That seems actual aberrant yes. It sounds to me she WANTS you to accept absolution her break "single" on the myspace page. Perhaps she is bluffing about with a guy online and doesnt wish him to apperceive about you and carnality versa? This is an assessment based question, the best affair to do is articulation your apropos to her, acquaint her this bearings is odd, not absolutely a accustomed request, and acquisition out the reasons.

Explain assurance is ascendant in any relationship, and that she needs to be accessible and honest with you.

[ADALINE]

Originally Posted by selvan12345

That seems actual aberrant yes. It sounds to me she WANTS you to accept absolution her break "single" on the myspace page. Perhaps she is bluffing about with a guy online and doesnt wish him to apperceive about you and carnality versa? This is an assessment based question, the best affair to do is articulation your apropos to her, acquaint her this bearings is odd, not absolutely a accustomed request, and acquisition out the reasons.

Explain assurance is ascendant in any relationship, and that she needs to be accessible and honest with you.

You are right dear .