Girlfriend in Contact with ex's. Expert Advice Needed

[french toast]

My girlfriend is always on facebook!!! She mails her ex boyfriends on a fairly regular basis. In addition she calls them and recieves mails and calls from them as well. If i ask her about them , she dismisses it and says that she is just being friendly and its normal. If i inquire any more she starts saying im jealous, this is really fustrating for me because she never volunteers and information on her ex's and if i ask about them she plays the jealsousy card which is effectivly a block and ends the conversation!!

I am worried because she is going back to Venezuela in September and i will be in Europe. All her ex's are in Venezuela. In addition she has not posted a single picture of me on her facebook or changed her status. Also she never talks abour our future? I think she could be playing me. I dont know!!
Should i be concerned about her behaviour?

[MrVato]

Yes! Very much so!

[Packer]

Do the EXACT same thing to her.

[jayrock]

Remember that you are the prize. You should also invite her to do something with you and surprise her by inviting another girl along. This will ignite the jealousy in her.

[warrior504th]

The no pictures or status change when always on is simple avoidance. That's intentional.

Playing you off as insecure and jealous right away, combined with reacting in anger right away, is usually a sign of guilty conscience. She's avoiding potentially having to "remedy the problem" or consider your feelings, which may require she mention you to ex's, post pics, or change status.

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[warrior504th]

The best way to approach it is to tell yourself you will keep your calm no matter WHAT. Approach, tell her you love her or care about her first, then tell her you want to talk. Tell her it bothers you.

Tell her you want to discuss it, and when she gets upset, ask her very calmly to relax, tell her you love/care about her, and just want to chat. The more angry she gets, the more no big deal you must be. Do NOT give in and more importantly do NOT react in anger. She will eventually chill if you keep your calm. Think of it as your frame and the calm frame must overtake the angry frame.

If she refuses to change, that means that their ignorance to her relationship status is more important than the relationship you two actually hold, aka she's a cheater waiting to cheat

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[jayrock]

Excellent advice. KCCO. Keep Calm and Chive On!

Maintain your cool and calm self. If you become irate or easily upset, she will see that as a weakness (and not fun) and seek companionship elsewhere. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. YOU HAVE PLENTY OF OPTIONS AVAILABLE TO YOU.

Be fun, be cool, have fun.

"Recover, soldier"