Cheating on your girlfriend

[Tito]

Any thoughts? Approve, disapprove, why shoud you, why shoudn't, how to, how not to...

[Phelim]

No, very bad for various reasons. Here's just one: the inner self always shines through. Whatever you are on the inside will eventually manifest on the outside.

If you're a thief, people won't trust you. If you have a hidden agenda, people won't want to talk to you. Etc, etc. They might not know exactly why, but they'll always pick up on it.

[Tito]

Well... Not necessarily if you play your cards right, but I see your point.

I'm asking cause I'm kinda neutral on the subject, but at the same time I find that most of men in a LTR soon or later end up cheating on their girlfriends/wives.

Right now I'm in LTR with a girl for over a year, even though is not that long of a relationship, it can get boring at times.

I guess I kinda miss the game: "A1 - S3" and then start over, no strings attached.

Don't get me wrong I really love her and do not wish to dump, or replace her for another woman, but I could say that I'm really confused right now.

[Mykd]

Originally Posted by Phelim

No, very bad for various reasons. Here's just one: the inner self always shines through. Whatever you are on the inside will eventually manifest on the outside.

If you're a thief, people won't trust you. If you have a hidden agenda, people won't want to talk to you. Etc, etc. They might not know exactly why, but they'll always pick up on it.

Agreed.

Anyways, how long you been dating for? I notice there are stages to relationships. I found there is a stage where you just wanna cheat and that's the make or break, but this usually happens after a long period of time. If it happens before that, stop wasting your time. Dump her, it won't last.. It's harsh but fact, well at least for my mates and I.

[Steel.]

Well, you could just not cheat. Being a PUA doesn't mean you have to be an asshole. If you don't want to be with her, grow some balls and tell her because it isn't fair to her to think she's in a committed relationship with someone who cares when she isn't. Just be straight with her. It could help fix whatever problem is causing you to consider cheating on her. I know I would have appreciated a heads up.

-Steel.

[The Wild One]

Karma is a real part of nature thus you do bad things to others and bad things will eventually happen to you. Most people who cheat and mislead others don't do it because they're psychological masterminds. They do it because they lack self control and have weak inner game. It's generally not looked upon highly to mislead people and it's easy to figure out when people are cheating. Everything socially is obvious over time so play the game based on having high character and you'll attract more girls. If you like variety simply be honest and say you're not interested in monogomy you'll get more lay's with the girls you're looking for. Hurting people needlessly for your own benefit without regard for anyone but yourself is the cause of many men's ruin in seduction.

One rule of being a man who is respectable is doing what you say you're going to do. If you say you're not into being with one girl and date lots of girls then that is deserving of respect. You say you love someone and want to be exclusive than you're respected if you stick to what you say you're going to do. Yet as a man if you can't even follow your own rules you're looked upon without respect because you come across weak. To weak to even follow your own rules makes you look bad so that being said you can do whatever you want. Just stick by what you say your intentions are if you want respect from people.

The Wild One

[Tito]

Originally Posted by The Wild One

Karma is a real part of nature thus you do bad things to others and bad things will eventually happen to you. Most people who cheat and mislead others don't do it because they're psychological masterminds. They do it because they lack self control and have weak inner game. It's generally not looked upon highly to mislead people and it's easy to figure out when people are cheating. Everything socially is obvious over time so play the game based on having high character and you'll attract more girls. If you like variety simply be honest and say you're not interested in monogomy you'll get more lay's with the girls you're looking for. Hurting people needlessly for your own benefit without regard for anyone but yourself is the cause of many men's ruin in seduction.

One rule of being a man who is respectable is doing what you say you're going to do. If you say you're not into being with one girl and date lots of girls then that is deserving of respect. You say you love someone and want to be exclusive than you're respected if you stick to what you say you're going to do. Yet as a man if you can't even follow your own rules you're looked upon without respect because you come across weak. To weak to even follow your own rules makes you look bad so that being said you can do whatever you want. Just stick by what you say your intentions are if you want respect from people.

The Wild One

Yeah I got that, from other post of yours, something you said about losing respect that made my mind click, cause thats exactly how I felt when a girl rejected me because of my GF.

So after that, I've actually apologized to her for being such a dick. Controversially I accidentally triggered her attraction mechanism, I guess that was that respect coming back to where it was before.

[diablo]

cheated on every girlfriend I've ever had.
made myself feel better by saying, "its evolution. its what i'm here to do."

soon the guilt kicks in..

when i stopped doing this?

i was dating a smoking hottie.. SMOKING.
2 years ago.
she found out i slept with another girl.
completely stopped talking to me.
COMPLETELY.
shit hurt so bad. i felt like such an idiot.

so beware... if you are really into a girl. just don't cheat.
be honest with her.

if you are so-so with a girl... ha ha cheat away-

[The Wild One]

Originally Posted by Tito

Yeah I got that, from other post of yours, something you said about losing respect that made my mind click, cause thats exactly how I felt when a girl rejected me because of my GF.

So after that, I've actually apologized to her for being such a dick. Controversially I accidentally triggered her attraction mechanism, I guess that was that respect coming back to where it was before.

Respect is an important aspect of seduction based on comfort, security, and trust. You lose one of the three components with girls and you will destroy attraction. Unless of the course the girl is very self concious or has a poor self image which also ruins her attractive allure you will lose attraction. So basically the girls worth keeping won't put up with the behavior and will feel betrayed by you ultimately hurting your situation with them. While low value girls who you don't want beyond a single lay will put up with it but ultimately the nature of a relationship with a girl like that will destroy you in another way. So living the upright path of doing what you say is difficult but ultimately more rewarding for those following that ideology.

Tyler Durden in his rsd courses has some good stuff about this where he talks about failure and people having the tendancy to pursue seemingly easy courses which are actually lazy half hearted attempts to achieve good results to their own dismay. It seems and is difficult at times to be honest about your behavior but ultimately it earns you more respect. This seduction stuff the majority of it is all based on inner game for us guys. While we can use physical tools to aid us inner game is the key to seduction for men and women.

The Wild One

[diablo]

i'd say best thing is to NOT do it.

so you don't get that reputation for being a cheating lying dick.

girls will turn on you so fast if you do some bad shit to their friend.

best to just break it off as soon as you cheat. or tell her that you cheated and it was an accident and you just had to be honest with her because you love her.

but best thing to do is to not have a gf if you wanna hook up with other chicks man