TOTALLY blown out. ...haha

[diablo]

there comes a point where this kind of thing stops hurting your feeling.
in the beginning.. it hurts. you read all this shit then go out, and none of it works and you can be CRUSHED.

that can either motivate you to go on and be great
or kill your spirits and time to go home

i like to use it as motivation-

i'm at a bar. it's pretty packed. music is loud. but not club loud,
not like a Miami dance club loud.. where your ears ring for 2 days straight.

i'm with two of my guy friends.
this girl looks at me and i look back her with that, "i know you." look... that is kind of confused. that look, like .. when you see an old friend and you're kind of shocked.

you guys know this look.

she smiles.

so i look at my friend and say, "um ok.. i'm about to try something i haven't done in a while. make fun of me if i get rejected."

my friends aren't into the game. but they pull tons of ass naturally.

i walk over to this girl. she's talking to 3 guys.
tap her on the shoulder, and say, "how have you been?"
with a big smile.
she says, "do i know you?"

ok.. if you've read any of my posts in the past.
you'd know that i actually have a good track record with this type of thing-
faking like i already know her.
most girls will play along with it.
this girl didn't.

so i reverted to something i once heard style say,
"oh .. you work at x-bar right?"
her: no
me: "well the way you looked at me... i didn't want to be rude and not say hi, just in case we knew each other."
her: oh. sorry <backturn>

i turn back to my friends.. still standing next to her.
they are crrrrrracking up.
i'm back to back with her. i start laughing too.
then i walk back to the group.
one of my friends actually got a pic of me back to back with her right after she brutally shut me down lol.

my friend gives me a hug. other friend buys me a shot.
haha, good guys.

that is still talked about today (happened 3 days ago)
still joking about that.
not in a condescending way. just funny inside joke.
these are the things that bring you and your wingmen closer together.
everyone loves to hear a success story-
but the really funny stories are the ones where you just get COMPLETELY BLOWN OUT.

am i defeated? a little.
but whatever. push thru.
go upstairs in this bar.
cute blonde girl bumps me walking past me
me: "ow. that hurt."
her: "don't be a pussy."
me: "i'll show you my pussy."
her: "you're moms a pussy."
me: "my mom is gay and dead."
her: "in that case i hope she is sucking buttholes in hell"
me: "oh my god... come here <hug> who are you"
her: "hahahahah.. i thought i may have pushed it too far with the mom thing."
me: "usually when someone says, 'my mom is dead,' they are lying."
her: i'm hb8.5 . who are you?
me: I'm diablo, nice to meet ya.
her: and that makes you special because..?
me: you've read the mystery method.
her: the what method?
me: nothing. never mind.
her: wait, what?
me: introduce me to your friends

and i meet her friends.
get her number.
still texting.
should hangout tonight!

so i persisted after my blow out.
made it into a joke.
and met a new girl.

[subzero]

Just want to say that you have a great attitude man!

ironically thats how you have to be!

Do things cause you think its fun and not so concerned about the outcome....

My favorite way of looking at it is how Mehow says to be the evil clown......where you are having more fun with your own material rather than how entertained they are by listening.

Besides everyone gets blown out.......EVERYONE. Meaning no one gets every girl......

this isnt about perfection, its about being able to handle yourself in all situations with style and grace.....at least thats how I interpret it. Its about consistency.......good percentages.....having fun.......BUT ITS NOT ABOUT BEING PERFECT.

Yeah, you can play it safe and go for the very high percentage shots because you don't want to be turned down.....but then you will miss lots of opportunities that could have MASSIVE rewards.....

good for you not letting your ego get in the way!

Oh my god, nice stuff and nice play I must remember this "that hurt" thing

Chears!

[diablo]

Originally Posted by subzero

Just want to say that you have a great attitude man!

ironically thats how you have to be!

Do things cause you think its fun and not so concerned about the outcome....

amen brother. my friends and i joke now, "if a girl tells you to fuck off... you should thank her."

because she just saved you A LOT of your time by not jerking your around all night long then not going home with you. you really should thank that girl for being so blunt with you. hahaha. so if we get blown out now, we say thanks.. or thanks, i love you.

But, as for getting blown out. My wingmen and I do it once a night. We also pick a set, pop it and then one of my wingmen has to go in and try and blow the other out. It has really been alot of fun and helping our game.

ha ha, i don't think i ever TRY to get blown out.
when it happens it happens. let those rejection emotions pump thru me. deep breath. let them pass. ok.. moving along.
id rather not get blown out! lol, but like subzero said- it happens to everyone.

With the whole do i know you thing...for a while i was thinking to myself "WOW...THE SHEER AUDACITY THIS DUDE HAS TO BE PULLING THIS OFF???"...i often wondered why none of the girls ever just said "do i know you?" or "you don't know me"....but here it is...unlucky man.

Maybe actually acknowledging that you've been caught out would be a good recovery strategy? SOI straight after, transitioning into direct game? "*smile* You got me...I don't know you...yet *smile* but why don't we change that? *stack forward*" (that was cheesy yea...but you get the idea)

haha yea man, it has worked wanders for me.
for a long time.

so i figured i'd post about the time it didn't work, then i recovered with another hottie.

FINALLY .. a chick didn't play along. so i see it as, "ok, now this is what happens when that doesn't work."

idk about acknowledging that i've been caught..... hmm... i kind of like my backup plan, but next time it happens who knows .. your response may come out of my mouth!

The girl you spoke to after that...very good lol. She sounds like the type of girl that likes to give as good as she gets...you noticed this straight away and stepped up...i like the fact that saying "introduce me to your friends" can cut short anything she is saying lol. Awesome.

yea dude.. she was a little fireball..
she sent me a few pics of herself.
she's a soccer player.
we met up for a happy hour 2 days ago.
she brought the whole fucking soccer team.
talk about some nice butts. and nice legs. damn.
glad i met this chick!

i've already friend-zoned her because some of her friends are waaaay hotter than she is.

[DERAIL]

VERY GOOD ATTITUDED!!!

Same thing, when I started sarging, rejection wasnt so bad because I journalize my stuff so I would dissect it and learn from it.

But, as for getting blown out. My wingmen and I do it once a night. We also pick a set, pop it and then one of my wingmen has to go in and try and blow the other out. It has really been alot of fun and helping our game.

My dance floor game is not top notch so to get over dance floor embarrassment I give you
"FREEDOM 35"

It is a routine my wingman Stavros and my brother Johnny Quid created where you jump around on the dance floor yelling "FREEDOM 35!!!!"
Set: What is freedom 35?
PUA: I just got outta jail!!!! High 5
Set: What were you in jail for?
Wingman: He beat up his girlfriend but she deserved it

Keep dancing like your dancing til the world ends.

If you can recover out of that please post it. But, basically it is a good laugh and a fun blow yourself out exercise.

Keep up the good work brother

[PaperMike]

SOunds fanboyish...but I DON'T CARE(lol). This is why i love diablo's stuff...

With the whole do i know you thing...for a while i was thinking to myself "WOW...THE SHEER AUDACITY THIS DUDE HAS TO BE PULLING THIS OFF???"...i often wondered why none of the girls ever just said "do i know you?" or "you don't know me"....but here it is...unlucky man.

Maybe actually acknowledging that you've been caught out would be a good recovery strategy? SOI straight after, transitioning into direct game? "*smile* You got me...I don't know you...yet *smile* but why don't we change that? *stack forward*" (that was cheesy yea...but you get the idea)

The girl you spoke to after that...very good lol. She sounds like the type of girl that likes to give as good as she gets...you noticed this straight away and stepped up...i like the fact that saying "introduce me to your friends" can cut short anything she is saying lol. Awesome.

[arkangel]

Originally Posted by diablo

this girl looks at me and i look back her with that, "i know you." look... that is kind of confused. that look, like .. when you see an old friend and you're kind of shocked.

you guys know this look.

she smiles.

so i look at my friend and say, "um ok.. i'm about to try something i haven't done in a while. make fun of me if i get rejected."

my friends aren't into the game. but they pull tons of ass naturally.

i walk over to this girl. she's talking to 3 guys.
tap her on the shoulder, and say, "how have you been?"
with a big smile.
she says, "do i know you?"

ok.. if you've read any of my posts in the past.
you'd know that i actually have a good track record with this type of thing-
faking like i already know her.
most girls will play along with it.
this girl didn't.

so i reverted to something i once heard style say,
"oh .. you work at x-bar right?"
her: no
me: "well the way you looked at me... i didn't want to be rude and not say hi, just in case we knew each other."
her: oh. sorry <backturn>

i turn back to my friends.. still standing next to her.
they are crrrrrracking up.

Geez man! Seems like that girl was completely BRUTAL! LOL
Not even playing along after a prolonged EC. Usually the anti-slut
defense comes into play after sth like this happens to you.
This is what they think to themselves:

HB_dufus: (Wow, look at that guy, he's handsome
he's looking at me now too...
What do I do what do I do?
He's really cute. I guess I should smile to him )
(smile)
...
diablo: "how have you been?"
HB_dufus: (oh, he's here now, and he's talking
to me! If I talk to him he'll just think I'm a slut.
OK I'll just pretend nothing happened now!)
Do I know you?

LOL
It happens, sad but true. Unfortunately most of the girls
I've opened with a similar situation as yours paradoxically
end up being bitchy, unresponsive, impolite, wary, or
downright cold with me. WHile others who haven't even seen me
before in their life are the complete opposite.
So next time you get these "ready to open sets" or "AI sets"
expect the worst! LOL

Thanks for sharing buddy!