[Dream]

The Dream Way is one part inspiration, one part instruction, and pure value. The catch is that this value is largely targeted at a very specific skill set within the broader skill set of getting good with women. This book is about cutting the crap and getting to the core – in one section, Dream talks about what he calls ninja skills, or skills that seem cool and important on paper, but in reality, virtually never has a place. For instance, you will hardly ever find a need to AMOG anyone, and if you do, such occurrences are so rare, it is easy and more conducive to simply lose the set and open a new one. This book won’t teach you these super ninja tactics that helps in less than 1% of your interactions, but instead, puts the whole system in perspective. It helps you set your priorities straight.

Dream’s book is more of an in-depth analysis of a belief system rather than pure how-to. His book strives to eliminate limiting beliefs, encourage a hard look at yourself to realize what is internally holding you back, then zooming into the one area that, as he claims, seems to be left out of all other guru’s teachings – logistics (the handling of getting a girl isolated to your place to sex, all without triggering ASD or LMR or at least figuring out how to handle such resistance).

Perhaps the biggest difference between this book and others is that Dream incorporates himself into his work. It’s raw, uncensored Dream. It’s infused with personal anecdotes, pains, triumphs, key ah-ha or eureka moments, and LR/FRs. These give it a much needed human quality that lets you know, this is possible, this is worth it. Because of this human touch, the mountains of tough love in the form of bold statements that may shake your entire reality and inner mentality are easier to digest.

The organization is very straightforward and logical. He starts with a painful personal story that catapulted him to his PU journey. This story hits home in so many aspects. He reveals embarrassment, humiliation, hurt, and ego-bashing. This book is a bit like an autobiography, painting a vivid picture. It’s a more down to earth version of Style’s The Game in many ways. Never having been a famous writer travelling with rock stars and constantly thrown in the way of glamorous Hollywood, Dream tells his story of an average guy (actually, probably worse than average) to who he has worked hard to become today.

Following his personal story, he jumps into breaking down your limiting beliefs by asking you to take a good look at yourself. He poses a series of questions that drives home because the first step of healing or changing is to admit you have a problem. He expertly talks about focus, the positive, and other more abstract concepts. Fortunately, he escapes the problem other more abstract talking gurus face – by being abstract, you are by definition not being specific. Dream gives you specific personal stories to exemplify his belief system in action, manifested in the way he interacts with girls.

Finally, he gets to the how-to portion. He breaks logistics down into two categories – micro and macro. Micro are things that are not as crucial, and are more specific tasks that if handled will help facilitate a good interaction. Macro are things that cannot be overlooking in managing logistics, such as finding out where she lives and her transportation arrangements. Dream covers both in some detail, but I would have liked to see an even more specific rundown of these concepts.

One thing this book assumes is that you are able to get attraction decently easily, meaning this is not a comprehensive book. It will serve well for a group of guys on a specific step in the journey, but for beginners, there is a lot of other things that is actually more crucial than the focus of The Dream Way. Dream touches on these fundamentals, but as he clearly states, it is by no means the focus.

Dream lists a plethora of excuses, reasons, and tactics to facilitate certain advances during late game. Some of these are very creative, but for the most part, I found them to be floating around the community forums and other manuals. It’s not mind blowing, but it is helpful. I will be referring to these lists in the future.

He also has a bag of goodies that talk about deeper, and also more abstract concepts such as value alignment and personality alignment. They feel more like food for thought rather than detailed discussion of the concepts. That’s fine, but it still could have benefited from more specific discussion and concrete examples.

All in all, it’s a tremendous effort, but for me, the real value was seeing Dream’s personality shine through. The how-to was informative, but not something I haven’t already heard for the most part. This is largely because I have spent a week living with him and hearing many ideas from some of his mentors at the Under 21 Convention 2007. If you weren’t there, this book will reveal so many ideas you probably have not heard of, things that classic manuals such as the VAH, Magic Bullets, and others do not mention simply because they are too focused on the overall structure.

Dream’s book is an effort at a specific skill set of managing logistics, and for that, it is solid. He draws from and gives credit to many of his friends and mentors in this book, and in many ways, The Dream Way is a compilation of various bits of advice from a bunch of strong PUAs organized in a personal, easy-to-read way. The tone is friendly and causal, but the topic is serious. It’s a quick read littered with pieces of gold, so it’s worth the small investment. Just don’t be expecting a reworking of an entire pick up structure. The Dream Way is a look into game as Dream understands it, and it’s pretty good.

-PradaG